Feeling bad about oneself is
part of human experience. But if one regularly nurtures negative
feelings then he or she is referred to as having low self-esteem.
Such a person dwells in self-hate, shame, guilt, anger and
embarrassment. A person suffering from low self-esteem criticizes
himself and passes comments like, “I should not have done that”,
“why do I act like a fool?” etc. Psychologists say that if you keep
thinking along the lines of “I am a fool”, then your mind would tend
to prove yourself right by making you act in such a way.
No one is like the other and
we all react to situations differently. If you develop low
self-esteem then you would have difficulty in making or keeping
friends. You may become easily discouraged, disheartened and moody;
as a chain reaction, this may put down those around you and you may
also have a difficult time in solving your own problems. You would
hold yourself back from new opportunities in life or move on into
your future. If you ask, “can I not get out of this pattern?” the
answer is a definite “yes, you can.”
Our understanding of ourselves
is usually based upon other peoples’ opinions about us. This is one
main reason why some have a good self-esteem and others lack the
same. It is imperative to develop a strong self-esteem in childhood.
Self-esteem is learned and much of that learning occurs at home
during one’s childhood.
Here we give you a few tips
that would help boost your self-esteem:
1.Love
is the key to booster one’s self-esteem. Self-esteem is developed
only by self-love. Learn to love yourself. This is the only way to
see you as a valuable person in the society.
2.
Self-complement works like a tonic. Just look into the mirror and
tell yourself that you are pretty looking or you are nice or any
other nice statement about yourself. That works wonders!
3.Dress
up or make yourself look prettier or smarter. You could get a
haircut, buy a new dress or do whatever that will make you feel like
a new person.
4.Make
yourself physically fit and trim. This will improve your poise and
presence.
5.Make a
list of all your positive qualities and know that you are not bad at
all!
6.Plan
to do at least one good deed a day. This will make you see your
generosity and kindness.
7.Travel
to new places and meet new people. You may discover that many people
out there do not know themselves.
8.Pay
complements to a stranger and see how happy he or she feels. In
return this will make you feel better.
9.More
importantly, stay away from those who insult you or put you down.
A positive and healthy self
worth fosters self-confidence and self-esteem. Parents play an
important role in promoting a positive attitude and high self esteem
in their kids. The basic understanding that no one is born perfect
should make you realize that you are not a worthless person. So try
to see the truth and believe that you are unique in your own way.
Remember that no one is perfect enough to put you down or hurt your
self-esteem.
